What is the secret to stay married after you get settled down with your future wife ?
I’m thinking a lot about getting married & settling down with that special person, I’m 18 years old and i’m going to be 19 in about 3 months from now. Can anyone tell me what is the key to stay married when i have found that special person and married her ? Can any married couple please give me some suggestions on how to stay married when i get married ? Also is it too early for me to start thinking about getting married ?? I’m ready to listen and learn anything you guys tell me.
March 21st, 2011 at 4:51 pm
answer mine? its a serious question, id really appreciate it.
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March 21st, 2011 at 5:45 pm
keep both of your minds open. the key to have a healthy relationship is communication. tell her what what you did, where you went, etc. and also TRUST!
and i think its to early for you to think about marriages but i know you want to prepare yourself for the future. but just take your time and enjoy every minute of your life. because its going to be a total different world after you get married.
March 21st, 2011 at 6:34 pm
The most common factor that happily married couples state keep them together or able to overlook each others inequalities, is a relationship with their God and their Church.
March 21st, 2011 at 7:07 pm
They say marriage is a long road with different stages and many ups and downs. Though it is very hard now to do that, you both have to be realistic about that. Not that I am pushing Christianity but there is a scripture about love that many people use during their wedding:
1 Corinthians 13:4 – 7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Something to think about during the hard times. Good luck.
March 21st, 2011 at 7:49 pm
1. do a good job of choosing. Choose with your head, not just your heart. Do premarital counseling. Nothing will affect your future (financial, mental, spiritual) more than the woman you marry.
2. treat your marriage as well as you treat your lawn. Assuming you water and mow regularly.
3. commitment — if you are not committed, nothing will keep your marriage together.
Marriage is the most intense relationship you can have on earth. It’s not like your brother or sister or parents. Sometimes the only thing that keeps you together is your intention to stay together, your commitment to stay.
It might be too early for you. the odds of success are lower fou younger couples, because you are not definite in your life direction. You might become a comlpetely different person between now and 25. Probably not so much between 25 and 40. It makes it easier for your wife to stay with you if you are still pretty much the same person next year.
March 21st, 2011 at 8:43 pm
This weekend is our 6 year anniversary. I got married when I was 19. It kinda all depends on your situation and life style and if she is the one and its meant to be you will work it out being so young you will grow together or grow apart. Just depends. I can say you need to not cont roll her or hog all the money or be jealous. Girls remember the smallest detail and they don’t forget when there feelings get hurt. always be respectful and trustworthy once you loose her trust your done!! It;s really hard to earn that back. So another words be faithful. If you are going to cheat or find yourself in that spot pay her the respect and break it off first don’t rush it and jump into it you’ll know when your ready go into it with the idea that it is a lifetime commitment. Through thick or thin is really whats its about. Also your relationship will go through changes it is kinda like a big test at points to stick together all the good times should equal more than the bad and remember money is the root of all evil so don’t rush out and make great big purchases with payments and stay away from credit cards!!
March 21st, 2011 at 9:32 pm
It’s very early to be thinking about marriage. You’re barely an adult!
You need to figure out who you are, what you want, who you want, etc.
March 21st, 2011 at 10:01 pm
Communication is key. Many problems you hear about are the product of bad communication. Also you have to like your wife like you like your friends. Love isnt enough you have to enjoy spending time with them the same way you do with your friends.
Marrage is hard work, for most of us it takes effort (at times). Anyway, my personal opinion is that anything under 24 or so is too young to get married.
Live with the person for a while. See how it is.
March 21st, 2011 at 10:05 pm
My husband and I have been married for 11 years, we are very happy together. We have always tried to be a team, making decisions together, sharing responsibilities, and helping each other out whenever we need to. We have always made God a part of our family, we go to church weekly and keep our family involved in church functions. We have 3 kids, but we waited for 3 years before having our first child. This is not something that you are probably going to hear much, but to be totally honest (in our relationship anyway) our sex life is a big factor. If we are both sexually satisfied we both are happier in general, which leads to a happy household. Our sexual appitites have not changed much through the years, but we have both become more adventurous and with experience has come more satisfaction. I hope this isn’t more info than you wanted, but I seriously believe that showing and experiencing the love that you have for each other through intimacy is an important part of any marriage. BTW my husband and I were 22 and 20 when we got married.