How do we explain to kids they are not allowed in our bedroom?
We have three kids and a large 3 bedroom apartment. In the morning when we’re getting ready for the day or checking emial or whatever, they are told not to come in the bedroom. I don’t like the kids climbing up on our bed because, well, parents do dirty things on that bed. It’s just wierd to me.
How do I explain that our room is our space? Do most people let their kids just hang out in their bedroom. For me it’s boundries and respect.
May 5th, 2011 at 7:04 am
“You’re not allowed in our bedroom.”
That’s what I would say. Explain that it is your space and if they need something they can knock.
May 5th, 2011 at 7:21 am
I don’t know…my parents never made their room off-limits and I don’t with mine. I really don’t find it a big deal.
If you really have a problem with it, then tell them that it’s your room and they under no circumstances can play in it. But, I just want to remind you that the more you make it off-limits, the more they are going to want to go in there.
May 5th, 2011 at 8:15 am
I don’t explain, I just put up a baby safety gate in the doorway. My children are young though (3 & 1).
May 5th, 2011 at 8:59 am
Just tell them that a bedroom is a private place and if they really need something they have to knock on the door and ask to come it…it helps if you treat their rooms like this as well.
May 5th, 2011 at 9:29 am
keep your door locked.
May 5th, 2011 at 10:19 am
Tell them that they aren’t allowed in your room. It’s really simple, if your kids can read put a no kids allowed sign
May 5th, 2011 at 10:53 am
generally our room is off limits to the kids. we tell them they have free use of the rest of the house but our room is private. It might help to get the computer out of the bedroom so they have no reason to want to hang around and wait ot talk to you.
May 5th, 2011 at 11:07 am
tell them that they are just not allowed in the bedroom god is it that hard
May 5th, 2011 at 11:47 am
no offence but this question is a tad ridiculous!
Like anything else.. (no sweets for example)
“YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED SWEETS”
you say “YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED IN MUMMY AND DADDYS ROOM”
surely they would understand the simple instruction?!
May 5th, 2011 at 11:54 am
our bedroom is off limits too. it depends on how old the kids are. my kids, have known from the get-go, they are not to be in there when we are not. if we are in there on the computer or talking or something, and they knock and we invite, that is ok.
teach them early on to knock if they think that you are in there. keep the door shut, until they are old enough to understand not to go in there. if they are very young, you might have to wait a bit, becuase kids that are too young don’t understand the big deal. like 2 or 3 years old. if that is the case, every time you are in there and they are around, take them out and you stay out with them. don’t let them in at all. they will get used to the fact that mom & dads room is off limits, and they will eventually forget they even wanted to go in there. if they are that young, the main reason anyway is because you are in there. if they are older, above 5, they are old enough to know better if you tell them and a punishment should be given if they disobey.
call me strict, but my parents rooms were off limits too. alot of adults keep guns, or gun cabinets in their bedrooms, expensive computer equipment, or in my instance i have jewelery and $100 perfume i don’t want messed with, and a few other adult items they have no buissness seeing.
0-4 just try to keep the door shut, and if you are in there and they come in, take them and you leave also. get their mind on something else. 5+ explain, 1 warning, then punish. good luck!
May 5th, 2011 at 12:36 pm
We tell them that they need to stay out and if they do not listen to them we sit them down tell them our boundaries and then find a way to Communicate with each other…. Your always right!!!
May 7th, 2011 at 3:45 pm
You tell them that mommy and daddy’s room is a private place for them only
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