My mother and grandmother (paternal) always quarrel. What should i do?
MOther and grandma always keep quarreling and shouting. usually the issue is started by grandma. My mother has begun to display suicidal tendencies and i’m really scared. i will give engineering exams this year and i’m really worried about this situation. what should i do??
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January 25th, 2011 at 3:57 am
Try to talk to each of them individually then ask them why they keep on quarreling and ask them to reconcile..
Or the other option pray to God to help you in your problem. God can help them
January 25th, 2011 at 4:26 am
Hey there, first off, take a deep breath in and out. You obviously need some time to relax. Then , when your mother is feeling calm and relaxed and it is quiet, that is a good time to talk to her. Gently tell her about your feelings when she and your grandmother are arguing and then you could talk to her about how the situation could be resolved. The case may be that you and your mother need some time away from your grandmother, and, that way, you and your mother will come closer together, letting your mother know that you will always be there for her. By doing this, you will both be calm and relaxed, and you will do fine on your exam . Good luck by the way! 🙂 xxx
January 25th, 2011 at 4:29 am
I presume if your taking engineering exams this year your already a young man, if this is the case all the better. You must either face up to your Grandma and tell her to stop abusing and insulting your mother, that she is a grown woman of her own with grown up children. Your mother however is obviously a woman that still fears her own mother, and the older of the two knows this, and that is where it amounts to abuse. Are there any specific reasons why your Grandma behaves this way, has she got some medical illness going on?
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You could go along the lines with your own mother. Tell her ” Mom what is going on is really upsetting for you and for me too, and I can’t stand to see what Grandma is doing to you. You need to stop going over to see her and you have my full backing and support”. If your mother will not listen to you, and feels out of some loyalty that she can not desert her mother, then there is little you can do, other than speak to another family member and make them aware of what is going on.
It’s a difficult situation but your the man of the house now so to speak, and with your support to your mother she may well learn how to stand up to your Grandmother. The only other thing you can do is when your present there with both of them, and the grandmother starts picking on your Mom is to defend your mother and tell your grandmother to stop right now, or you will take your mother home.