What’s a nice polite way to get an old boyfriend back?
I just realized that my boyfriend from 10yrs ago is my soulmate. We live in different countries now. We’d promised to marry, but when I left for college I broke that vow by dating other men. I’ve since had 2 kids and live miserably with my fiance. I want my old boyfriend back. How do I ask him back in my life? How do I politely find out if he’s dating anyone, before I make a fool of myself? Please advise.
I want to take a week to spend with him at a resort or something where we can see if we still feel the same about each other and if the connection is still there. If it is, I’d move back there and reestablish the relationship.
I’m 30 and he’s 32.
October 16th, 2010 at 6:27 pm
send him naked pictures of you and if he asks to see you on cam do the wild thing you know it’s true love
October 16th, 2010 at 6:46 pm
First, break up with your “fiance” because it’s nothing short of foolish to be in a relationship and be miserable. Besides, checking things out with someone else before breaking up, is cheating and who needs that karma?
After you’re out of your current relationship and setup on your own, then you can contact your old boyfriend and see if he’s interested in getting together for a visit. From there, you can see where things go.
October 16th, 2010 at 7:13 pm
oooo….your screwed, 2 kids and a fiance!!! do you still talk to him? if so just tell him how you feel, and take it from there.
October 16th, 2010 at 7:44 pm
A phone call or an email would be a great ice-breaker. Get some information on his current situation and don’t let on about your situation. If he is single and receptive to a reunion, start planning something small and non-intrusive.
October 16th, 2010 at 8:00 pm
Go for it!!! Regardless of how much time has passed if you still love him then u still love him. Go to him talk to him, tell him howmuch you miss him and love him, if he lets u down then youll be happy that u tired. The worse thing we can do in life is not try!!! You only live once dont let him slip away again, oh yea but get rid of your fiance either way. If you dont love him no matter how much you use to love him, u just dont!!!
October 16th, 2010 at 8:43 pm
well u should give it a try..it won’t hurt u..but be big hearted..maybe he’s still pretty hurt by what u’ve done..and it’s hard to believe u..
just treat him as a friend first..he might have change much..u could start by calling him..invite him to dinner..etc..Good luck
October 16th, 2010 at 9:14 pm
First off, get rid of the fiancee.
Second, just ask him if he wants to go and have a coffee and catch up. He might tell you in his life story that he has someone or not so you wont even have to ask. If you really want an answer, just ask him if he has a family or anyone special in his life. If he says no, just tell him the truth. Tell him you are thinking of trying again and ask him if he would like to give it another go but make sure not to scare him and make him feel pressure. Just tell him you want to go on a few dates with him, if he wants, and see how it goes. If it feels like old times again, you can get your spark back.
October 16th, 2010 at 9:46 pm
Gap is 10 years, please do not recall your old memory, your old boyfriend might have married and leading happy life with some one else, interfering in his life at this juncture will cause for breaking two families and also getting adverse comments in the society in which you live. Please be happy with your two kids and fiance. Don.t take a curse of lady of your old boyfriend. Be happy in your present life.
October 16th, 2010 at 9:49 pm
This is hard to do…But if you really want him back…say SORRY and say i`ll never leave u again…As far as the dating thing is concerned, meet one of his friends and ask then what he s been upto..
U guys live in the American Society so havin kids n all and still getting accepted is no prob at all…Tell your present boyfriend about this and tell him whats on ur mind.Im sure he`ll understand dont worry.
GOOD LUCK…..I`ll pray 4 u 🙂
October 16th, 2010 at 10:28 pm
whoa! that said, are you sure? as in maybe you’re just thinking this way because you are dissatisfied with the man you are with now. anyway, if you can’t live with your fiance anymore, tell him your decision first. since there are kids involved, iron out the legalities first. i hope this guy will set you free (inc. the kids) without a lot of hassle but with financial support accorded to you by the law. whether you need his help or not, he has to give it. it’s only fair because you would be the one raising your kids. that said, after you have put closure on this relationship, that’s the only time you should ‘pursue’ your ‘soul mate’. if you try to ‘connect’ with him now, with all that excess baggage not resolved yet, he might not bite because it would cause complications in his life…you should be ‘free’ to go to him before you actually do. because even if he feels the same way, he might not commit (even if he is still single) if the business with your ex is not settled properly. if you pursue him now, he might think that you are making him your ‘savior’… i hope you succeed in this venture of yours…you are still young and deserve to be happy with the guy meant for you…
March 4th, 2011 at 4:46 pm
well im chasing after a ex-bf myself but i dnt seem to have the guts to tell him what i am feeling. he is just my friend now but is it the right thing to let it all out and tell him…even if he got a gurl? =[