My BF:s little brother died like 2 weeks ago and I have no idea what to do? What is my job as the GF?
My BF:s little brother was in an accident about 2 weeks ago and he fell from a building while he was out playing. This has really hit my BF hard since he little brother was the only person who he actually cared about in his family. The first week he went up to his family who lives about 500 miles away. And now he is back and I really don’t know what to do. I can imagine him being very lonely since his relationship with his parents isn’t very good. He told me that his mother told him that it should have been him and not his little brother that died. He has many times mentioned that he would be perfectly happy never seeing his parents again. But his little brother….he loved that kid.
I just don’t know what to do for him cause he isn’t exactly the “let’s talk about our feelings” kind of guy. He doesn’t cry, he doesn’t talk about it, and he doesn’t even mention it. Do you think that maybe I should leave him alone for a week or two? Maybe that is for the best? Or should I stay with him?
His little brother was 9. And he is 22.
March 9th, 2011 at 5:57 pm
If the little brother was young please do try to stay with him if he was old maybe.
March 9th, 2011 at 6:08 pm
oh im so sorry. Tell him that u will be there with whenever he wants to let his feeling out .tell him u love him and no matter wat u will be there for him.Tell him tat his little brother is now in a place were there is no pain, no fear no tears and tell him that his little brother is now with him all the time.
Hope this heps!
March 9th, 2011 at 7:00 pm
be there for him don’t talk about his feelings if he is not ready try to cheer him up do funny things to make him smile and be around him…show him that your love is unconditional and that you are there for him…………..
March 9th, 2011 at 7:05 pm
Just be there for him to support him when he needs you.Its a long road.Im so sorry for your /his loss.My heart goes out to you both
March 9th, 2011 at 7:57 pm
I wasn’t going to answer this until I read the first 3 answers.
Your his girlfriend. NOT his psychologist. Your job is to listen WHEN or IF he ever decides to talk about it. Coaxing him to talk about it is not your responsibility.
Oh, and he will cry about it. Just don’t be horribly surprised if you aren’t there to see it.
March 9th, 2011 at 8:23 pm
Show your concern,give your condolances.Admiral
March 10th, 2011 at 4:50 pm
well jst b there for him when ever he needs and even when he does’t need you. talk to him bout it cuz some one always needs sum one to tlk to. im srry for the lost