how can i get my girlfriend back . She said she wants to take a break?
I have been dating this girl for almost 2yrs and things were great in beginning and pretty much the whole time up until about mayb a month ago . To me this came out of blue she said she needs to take a break and work on herself , She says she still loves me and hates hurting me but it had to be done. She said she has been thinking about things for last 3 months . I want her back we were going to be engaged . Please help me?
October 9th, 2010 at 5:23 pm
Nothing you can do. Give her some time.
October 9th, 2010 at 6:15 pm
Give her space, thats all you can do.
its hard i know, but you need to resepect her and what she is wanting.
Give it about 2 weeks and then you can talk to her and see what happened.
im really sorry. im praying for your heart.xx
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October 9th, 2010 at 7:03 pm
Usually, taking a break means it’s over. She just wanted an easy way out and was trying to spare your feelings. Give her some time and space; but I would be extremely surprised if she came back.
October 9th, 2010 at 7:49 pm
jeez what a flashback to my college relationship that ended exactly the same.
“A break” is a nice way of saying she wants to break up. You’re just not what she’s looking for and you can’t change that.
My college girlfriend said that to me and I was devastated, but in retrospect I thank the Lord each day we didn’t get married because we really weren’t a good match.
Girls are often smarter about these things.
She’s not what you want.
Find a girl who appreciates you and has no doubts – believe me that will be a far happier relationship.
October 9th, 2010 at 8:18 pm
Looks like we’re in the same boat right now, except I’m the girl and my boyfriend wanted to take the break. Did you ask her to specify what she meant by taking a break? When people say they want to do that, it’s important to know for how long and if they plan to date during that time. I made sure when my boyfriend said he wanted a break that we each knew and agreed on the break time as well as the fact neither of us should date. It’s just time apart for us really. There’s nothing wrong with contacting her to ask these questions if you don’t know the answer to them. You don’t specify why things stopped going great…for us I need to work on some personal issues and we feel we would do better with some time apart. That could be what she’s thinking. The only thing you can really do is to wait it out. Only contact her if you don’t know the answer to the questions I mentioned earlier. If she loves you, she will miss you eventually, and there should be some initiation of conversation within a week or two. Just give her space to think so she doesn’t feel pressured or overwhelmed. That way, she will do what she truly wants and she won’t feel as if you’re controlling things. Good luck.
October 9th, 2010 at 9:05 pm
Hey
Winning back an ex is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you take the right steps, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win her back increase dramatically.
Here are few steps that helped me to get my ex girlfriend back:
Don’t Ask Your Ex Girlfriend To Get Back Together
You should never ask your ex girlfriend to get back together. Why? Simple, because her answer will be NO!
You’re only shot at getting your ex girlfriend back is to follow the right steps that will make her ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.
But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get girls attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.
So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way.
You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.
Don’t Be Jealous
You must understand that …SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it can be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow I know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you are not together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
If you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.
Being Flexible Is Very Important
Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. It’s better to be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who takes things easily is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again very fast.
These tips were helpful for me to get my ex girlfriend back.
good luck