How can I acquire the skill of starting a conversation with anyone and making it last a long time?
Like it says on the question, how can I be able to start a conversation with anyone and keep it up so both of us are interested?
I want to because it’ll help get a girlfriend, since I am shy, and get some more friends and I can seem more fun.
Please any tips, suggestions and comments are welcome and appreciated.
March 17th, 2011 at 3:02 pm
starting conversations sucks. that’s just about being nice and hoping that someone is open minded.
however, if you do get in, ask questions. people love talking about themselves. it all takes practice.
March 17th, 2011 at 3:17 pm
dude i got the same problem. ha ha lol not much of an answer eh? well ill be checking this a lot
March 17th, 2011 at 3:58 pm
Once you have found someone you are comfortable with (which takes some time to know) the convos will flow naturally. be patient and just try to get to know the person. Find out what they like to do in their free time, their interests, hobbys, dreams and find out what you have in common with them. just be a friend to them and eventually it will get easier. good luck.
March 17th, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Steer the conversation in the direction of topics you are knowledgeable about, so you have something to say (but don’t bore her with any one topic).
Pay attention to what she says, and if she seems enthusiastic about something give her a chance to talk about it by asking questions.
March 17th, 2011 at 5:04 pm
Heres a good tip, when you ignite a convo, you have to keep it going by braching out to different things, like to stories of your life or to a question. Like for example if it goes:
1: See? The food in that new place is awesome!
You: Yea i know
*awkward silence*
You: I once went to this place where they sold snails as food, isnt that weird?
Understand?
March 17th, 2011 at 5:23 pm
Comment on something she cares about.
If you say,
“Oh, nice shoes.”
She’ll have some long intricate story about how she went on some mile long trek through K-Mart to get those shoes.
You won’t have to say much, just nod at the right places.
She’ll be glad you seem to care, and if she’s polite, she’ll swing the conversation around to you.
March 17th, 2011 at 5:32 pm
Oh boy. Well, in answer to your question, see this site:
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Master-The-Art-of-Conversation&id=33622
However, this is more than about conversation. Not having something to talk about doesn’t seem to be your problem…as you said, shyness, seems to be your problem. So you can/should focus on conquering your shyness, so also go here:
http://googolplex.cuna.org/10222/ajsmall/story.html?doc_id=141
Good luck to you! 🙂
March 17th, 2011 at 6:30 pm
First of all you must view it like this. Finding a person to have a relationship with is like buying a new car. To get the best deal, and to get what you want you have to show apathy. Be relaxed in other words. Don’t worry the worst thing that could happen is she could say she doesn’t feel that way about you. Just play it cool, show interest and instead of focusing on talking so much focus more on asking questions to get her to talk. Be a good listener.
June 12th, 2013 at 10:13 pm
Today, I went to the beach front with my children.
I found a sea shell and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She put
the shell to her ear and screamed. There was a hermit crab inside and it
pinched her ear. She never wants to go back!
LoL I know this is entirely off topic but I had to tell someone!